My life has not been great. I was betrayed by my ex-boyfriend because he had an affair. I found out that I was adopted, but my adoptive parents had been hiding this secret behind me although they believed that it was good for me. I failed two suicide attempts recently. The last attempt was a totally disaster which almost put me behind bars because of my drunk driving and crashing my ex-boyfriend's car. I got my driver licence suspended and community services because it happened under the influence of my mental disorders. At that time I wished I was just dead. Afterwards I almost got my wish because I was almost killed in a car accident when my friend was driving me home. Unfortunately, I was alive but I got fractured pelvic bones and had to stay in bed and wheelchair for about 2 months. The pain made me very depressed and suicidal. I almost attempted suicide again, but I managed to put myself together...
Fast forward to now. I have got a new friend who is caring and supportive. Yesterday I was too stressed out about something and talked to him about it. He came up with some ideas to help me out, but then there were some potential risks that freaked me out. I texted him twice to talk about my fears and question him. I was expecting him to text me back all day long, but he did not reply. Just now I received his email saying that I had trust issues and that apparently I did not trust him. He felt sad about it. I immediately replied that I did not mean that. This really saddens me because he is my only friend in real life at this stage, but I hurt his feelings because of my own problems. I really feel so upset and guilty that I just want to cut myself open with my razor blade and bleed to death. I deserve it. The only thing that I am good at is hurting people. When they give a damn about me, I push them away. I am such an idiot!! Why have I kept doing this? I do not deserve anyone or anything good. I should rot in hell!!
Anger and sadness consume me
No peace in my mind and heart
One more kiss of the blade
Just to erase the pain inside me
I swear this time is the last
But Cuts after cuts
it is never enough
I thought that I had made it through
But now I have relapsed and lost control
Tears fell down my cheek
I don’t know how I have become so weak
I am deep in a hole
A darkened retreat
In the depths of my soul
My eyes are wept
My breaths are shuttered
I am left here to live
Alive but not free
I have to wear a mask
And pretend that I am okay
I smile and act
Like a puppet on strings
The pain and fear
You cannot see
The nightmare begins where it ends
Look at yourself! What a mess!! No wonder people think that you are such a fuckup. What would you do about it? You still think that you shouldn't be punished?? Don't ever try to make excuses, Sarah. You are not a child any more. FIX IT!!
I wish I could be saved. I hope that I can turn my life around. I have made so many horrible mistakes. The damage cannot be repaired, but I feel so regretful. Would I have a second chance? Do I deserve it? Where is my life heading?? I feel like I have no future. What should I do? Who could I trust? I feel like I am alone all the time. Why are these terrible things happening to me?? Thinking and waiting for the answers. Please show me some signs if you really exist, Jesus!
I thought that I could find something to feel hopeful, but I have realized that there is nothing out there for me. The pain is eternal. It's swallowing and suffocating me. One day, it will kill me.
My life has been a mess since the day Jason died in the car crash. I was supposed to die with him. I have not wanted to continue living without him. Or I do not know how to move on. He was the only one who ever genuinely and unconditionally loved me, but I was the cause of his death. For all these years, I have been mourning over him. My family and ex boyfriends have betrayed me. My friends have walked out on me. If he was still here, I would not have felt all alone and worthless. I wish I could see and hold him again...
Everyone else have become strangers to me lately. I have to struggle with my problems on the daily basis-no sense of security, feelings of being abandoned, trust issues, suicidal ideation and self harm. Even when they are around me, I just feel so distant from them. I do not believe in friendship or love any more. Under some circumstances, people would just betray and walk out on me. Don't say that you care when you do not really feel that way. I'd rather you to be honest with me or just fuck off. I am not giving you any chances to show you FAKE sympathy and make you feel a better person than me.
My mood: very distressed
I do nothing everyday. I am sucked in this self-pity cycle. Wake up, think of Dan-how we met, how much he loved me, etc., cry, take more alcohol and drugs to pass out. Then repeat the cycle over and over again. Kill my mind or/and body. I do not care. I just feel so horrible when I am sober. I cannot take it any more.
I had options to stop all of this from happening, but I made bad decisions. It's all my fault. Look at me now. I have lost everything. I am such a worthless piece of shit who is stuck in my own misery. He is never going to forgive me or love me back. I cannot beg him for his forgiveness and love because I cannot even stand up for myself. I have ruined everything. I have destroyed his faith in me. Saying sorry is not enough.
I do not deserve him. I know that Michelle (his ex girlfriend) could give him a better life. She is a doctor who has stable and good income. She is caring, smart, kind and attractive. I do not have any of this. How could I compete with her? However, deep down I still wish he could choose me over her. I just cannot bear losing him. Without him my life is meaningless. I have nothing to live for.
My mood: extremely distraught
Dan has moved out of my apartment. We are on a break!
There is going to be only me on this path. People can not be trusted. At a certain stage, they all have betrayed and left me. Friendship is fragile. They have just stopped caring for and talking to me. I feel despised, abandoned and heartbroken. I am so tired of feeling, loving and caring for someone. I have held so much grudge inside me that I want to take it out on them or just myself. I feel like losing myself again. The only things that keep me from missing him are alcohol and drugs. They kill the pain temporarily that is killing me. I do not know how long it would take, but I just hope that they they would take me out of my misery soon.
" I am in love with her, but I still love you Sarah."
I confronted him. It's the worst answer from him. He cannot decide. I hate that he has cheated on me, but I cannot blame him because I somewhat pushed him back to his ex. I was so absorbed with my suicidal tendencies that I shut him out. My recent suicide attempts must have made him powerless and disappointed because I did not think much about his feelings. All I did was trying to leave him by killing myself. He had nobody but her to turn to. I knew that his ex was still into him after they broke up and he was dating me, so it's easy for them to rebuild the relationship.
I am not sure what to say or do next. I just feel like losing everything I care about-my family, career, friends, my mind, and now him! It hurts. And I would just leave NY without saying Goodbye to him tomorrow.
My mood: extremely crushed
I just found out my boyfriend has betrayed me. He has been dating his ex since my recent suicide attempt. I have the photos as proof. No wonder he has been so distant and avoiding me. I cannot believe that he's been cheating on me.
I am feeling so angry with myself now because it is all my fault. I should not have used his car to attempt suicide. Why didn't I just die?? And then I would not have to suffer all of this. Does he hate me so much that he just wants to inflict more psychological pain on me? I cannot think straight right now. My head is pounding. I find it hard to breathe due to this chest pain. It is too much for me to cope. I really want to DIE now. I want to hurt myself very badly and die!!!!
My mood: extremely mad and sad
Since the truth was exposed, I have had conflicting feelings for my adoptive parents. Yes, I still love them, but I also hate them so much for their lies and cannot trust them any more.
They hid the secret that they adopted me when I was a baby. If my birth mother did not turn up at my front door, I would have never known the truth. When I confronted them about it, they denied that they had my birth mother's contact information. It was a LIE! I found out from my birth mother that they knew her and that she had contacted them for a few times in the past 20 years. In the end, they admitted that they had been hiding the truth, but they explained that they were afraid of depressing me more because I had been in bad shape. Yeah, it might push me further over the edge, but I might have a better chance to make my birth father love me. I don't see why a father would hate his own child so much if we could meet up and get to know each other at an earlier stage. Things in my life may have been changed in a good way. I hate them for leaving me no choice.
Now it is too late to do anything about it. Although he made that clear-he did not want me there in his new life, I still crave his love. There is a big hole inside me that I cannot fill with anything.
My mood: pretty depressed
Things are getting worse. All I can say is that I HATE this life so much, but I have nowhere else to let out my anger and frustration. It is KILLING ME!!!!
A while ago I tried to kill myself by crashing my boyfriend Dan's car into a tree. At that time, I was "abandoned" by my birth father once again. And I got in fights with both of my birth mother and adoptive parents. My depression and PTSD were not getting any better with the new meds. That night, I was with Dan at his boss' birthday party. I do not recall how many drinks I had, but I ended up being drunk. The last things I remember were feeling suicidal and got in his car. It was not well planned in advance, but I did hope that I would die.
I got a broken arm and leg, but I had been admitted to a psychiatric hospital for weeks. The experience in there was a completely nightmare for me. Now I have been required to do community service by the court in a community house for the disabled. Honestly, I hate my roles (supporting them and keeping the place clean) in there. I feel pointless because they are just as worthless as I am. I am mentally disabled while they are physically or intellectually disabled. We all are nothing but burdens on the society and our families. Besides, I hate seeing them because they remind me of how worthless I am.
I cannot talk about my feelings to anyone in my family now. After my suicide attempt, everyone looks angry and so distant. Dan has not talked much to me. He's always busy with his job. I feel like he has been using his work as an excuse for not wanting to be with me. I can understand that, though. And I haven't really felt close to my adoptive parents since I found out that I was adopted and they had hidden the secret till my birth mother turned up at my front door.
I do not know why I am so fucked up. I can not see why I have put up with all this shit. I have never wanted to live like this, but the invisible forces have made my life a living hell. I am trapped in this purgatory-not able to escape or die.
My mood: very grumpy
I had a nervous break down and tried to kill myself on my birthday last month. My adoptive parents were desperate and said that they would not forgive themselves if I died. They asked me if I was trying to punish them. I truely wanted to die. And yes, I also was so mad at them that I wanted to let them pay for being selfish and hiding the secrets about adopting me and my birth parents. I also wanted my birth parents to realize that their decision on abandoning me had ruined me. It was not me but them who killed me. I chose to die on my birthday because I wanted them to know how much hurt they had caused to me and that I did not celebrate my birth since I was worthless. They made me, but they did not want me. In their eyes, I was just a piece of trash. They would most probably not shed a single tear for me, but they would know that they had my blood on their hands. This was a reason why I chose to slit my wrists. Another reason was that I did not want their blood in me because I hated the fact that we were related. I couldn't live with it. I still cannot.
My mood: extremely depressed
I found myself wandering back to my birth father's house early this morning. I did not remember how I got there. The last thing I remember was lying in bed in my Motel room and thinking about him.
I saw him kissing his wife and kids goodbye. I felt the urge to knock at the door and tell them what he had done to me. To just let them know what he really is. A MONSTER! He's ruined me, so he deserves to be ruined.
I rang the bell. His wife opened the door and asked who I was. I said that I was his old friend's daughter from his hometown in N.Y. and paying a visit. She said that he was at work, but she let me in... We chatted a bit and then she showed me some of her family pictures. She and her kids looked really happy with my father. He looked so happy, too. He never looked that happy with my birth Mum in their pictures. She kept talking about how wonderful he was as a husband and father. I just stayed silent and wanted to cry. How could he treat Mum and me so differently? I wanted to tell her who I really was, but then I hesitated and left without telling her the truth...
He and Mum have broken my heart, but I am going to send them Christmas cards saying Goodbye on my birthday. I will be out of their lives.
My mood: extremely crushed and suicidal
I am so convinced that I am cursed. Everything that has happened to me proves it. I can see how this life would end...
I just wanted my birth father to say that he had never forgotten about me and that he loved/missed me so much that he tried to find me. However, he required me to stay away from him and his family. He even couldn't remember me while I told him my name and who I was.
Daddy, I am your fucking daughter. How could you forget about me and then order me to stay away? You wish I never existed. Isn't it what you really want? It's because I would be a threat to you and your perfect family. I am a shame to you, right? What would your wife and kids think if I told them the truth then? You kept saying how important they meant to you, but what about me? Deep down you just don't consider me as your family, right? You abandoned me and ran away while I was born, so I mean nothing to you. I am always the one that can be sacrificed. I am expendable and replaceable. You don't know what I have gone through, but you don't seem to care. Everything you care is your image and little perfect world. I HATE YOU! I HATE YOU! I HATE YOU!... You and Mum!!! You two have RUINED me.
My birthday is the 19th of this month. I bet you even don't remember this. Would you and Mum party if I killed myself on my birthday?
My mood: extremely crushed and suicidal
I finally found him, my biological father. In the past week, I have been stalking him and his family. It seems that he has got a happy family-a beautiful wife and 2 lovely kids. He must love them very much. He seems like a decent guy who has a good job and goes to church with his family on Sundays...
Why did he abandon me after I was born? Has he ever regreted or tried to look for me? Does he even know if I exist? Does he care? Do I ever mean anything to him??
I will need to talk to him. Tell him who I am and why I am here. I will need to find out the truth. I want to know if I ever matter to him. No matter how ugly and cruel the truth would be, I am ready to find it out. All I need now is to muster up my courage to confront him. There is no escaping at this stage. Just DO IT!!!!
My mood: very worthless
Thank you all for humiliating me and making my life so miserable! All my memories have been built up on all those lies for the past 20 years. I always wondered why I was so "different" from everyone else in my so-called family. Deep down I never felt like I was actually included and a part of it. Now I understand why I am this unique. I am ADOPTED!! It shocked me while a stranger knocked at my door and then told me who she was. My biological mother! I couldn't believe every word she said, but the evidence she showed has proved everything.
I hate you all! You should have let me know this as early as possible. You should have stopped lying to me. Now you have ruined everything and me. I don't need anyone now because I hate everyone. Don't ever talk to me. Don't ever beg for my forgiveness because I won't forgive you. Don't tell me that you just wanted to protect or love me. This was such a selfish act because you never asked what I wanted. Then how did you know what was the best for me? Yes, as I told you, I would rather die than being cheated and overprotected. Mother, why would you want me now? Don't you think that it is too late for me to forgive you for dumping me like a piece of trash and to love you back? Now you want to cleanse your sins and be a good mother. No ways! I am not going to give you this chance because you deserve to rot in the hell so that you would know how I felt.
I am going to do whatever I would need to do. I am going to make you all pay for what you have done. This won't end well. You will know what I mean soon.
My mood: very homicidal and suicidal
I have not talked to you in a while because I thougt that I could rely on some people I trusted, but you know what. You were so RIGHT. I admit now that I was WRONG. I should have listened to you. Now that I believe that people have just talked behind me, fought against me and tried to ruin me, there is no point of pretending and being nice and considerate. They don't feel grateful for what I have done for them. They don't know what I try to prove. You said that I should shut them out and that being selfish was not a bad thing to do. Now I agree with you. Therefore, from now on, I have decided to be a BAD girl and make them suffer before I die.
My mood: extremely crushed
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